For manifesters and magic makers, positive thinking is a crucial step in making dreams come true. It's also usually on the bullet list of how to love yourself more. To love yourself you have to think positively. To attract happiness and goodness and all things magical into your life you must think positively. It seems that over and over again we're told that how we think determines what we get in life. And although that's somewhat true, it's not the whole story.
Once again, it's about allowing what I'm actually feeling, rather than fighting against it. The very act of permitting without judgment is an act of self-love. This act of kindness toward myself goes much further in creating a joyful life than falsely pretending to feel optimistic.
We must love our whole selves, without judgment and that means accepting the good and bad thoughts. When we come from a place of "I'm going to attract bad things if I don't think positively," then we're in fear mode and fear mode is what ultimately allows negative experiences into our lives.
It's about how we feel, not how we think. Just because you think something like, this is impossible, I'll never accomplish this/get this certain thing/etc. doesn't mean bad things are on their way. It doesn't mean your dreams won't come true and you'll be a failure. The universe isn't saying, "Oh, Cassandra just thought something bad, so that's exactly what she's going to get."
Self-love is allowing all thoughts to flow through us. There's no way we can always think positively. It's just not humanly possible. But when we're told that we can't manifest our dreams if we allow negative thoughts into our minds, then we feel like we've failed when it happens. We feel like we're not good enough or that we're not capable of being a positive person.
There will be times when you feel sad or angry, times of challenge and hardship, and to think you have to dismiss the "bad" thoughts that might run through your head at those times is unhealthy. To practice true self-love (and when you love yourself you're in a position to manifest dreams) you must allow all thoughts to run through you.
Think of yourself as a river and the negative thoughts are pieces of driftwood floating down the river of your mind. They'll come and they'll go. As long as you don't sit on the log of despair and ride it into eternity, you're absolutely okay.
Self-love is acknowledging and honoring all parts of yourself. You are a holy human and being such means you'll express all kinds of feelings and thoughts. You simply cannot go through life expecting to be positive all the time.
So please stop fearing for your life, dear one. Stop fearing that occasional negative thinking will be your downfall. Life won't crumble if you can't always be in a positive state of mind. All emotions are a part of living on this physical plane and all emotions are worth acknowledging.