This is a guest post by Melisa Marzett.
The internet is awash with suggestions on how to get out of one's comfort zone, declaring that it is possible to achieve anything in life as long as one is able to move past their fears.
Every person, either consciously or not, strives for balance and harmony. Every time we happen to be out of our comfort zone, a shattered system changes, redevelops, but strives to get back to the state of rest, comfort, and harmony. We get out of our comfort zone in order to come up with its new version, the desired one.
A STEP INTO CHANGE
In order to develop, people are to feel discomfort from early childhood. For example, so a little one can walk by itself, s/he needs to let mummy`s hand go and, overcoming fear, make several steps.
However, it is important to understand that the child will go only when s/he is ready to go physically and when the need is formed. What would happen if the child rushed to walk before s/he was ready? The child will fall down.
Taking this simple example, one can see that development is a natural need, a step forward, and a step out of the comfort zone should flow out of an inner and irresistible strive for changes.
SEARCH OF SENSE
Sometimes being within comfort is not a senseless waste of time, as it is oftentimes described by followers of endless changes, but more likely a natural and healthy need.
In order to keep the balance, it is important to realize one's own limits and possibilities and to know what provides comfort and how to enter the zone. It is perfect to be able to use both “zones” relying on the image of one`s own desires and resources so life does not turn into a battle field.
FIND OUT WHY
If you feel that outside strife makes you want to get out of your comfort zone, (for example, other people thoughts) ask yourself why you are feeling this way.
If you feel that you do not want to move outside of your comfort zone at this moment because success for you is being within the balance and comfort of now, do not torture yourself, striving for constant development. It's okay to enjoy harmony.
We hear everywhere that it is time to get out of our comfort zones, that the time has come to move beyond our limitations. But it is important to know that no one has the power to make you leave the boundaries of your comfort zone or to remain inside.
Psychologists themselves discuss whether it is worth it to have a client leave one`s comfort zone or if it is better to follow his/her wishes to remain on a comfortable and safe feeling level.
IN THE C ZONE
So what are some reasons one should consider when deciding to move outside of her comfort zone?
1. A person getting out of a common zone is able to develop and to strive for development and is eager to achieve goals.
2. S/he is driven by a desire to become stronger than fear and to move beyond, "What if I cannot do it?"
3. A person who is able to get out of his/her comfort zone is capable of seeing a problem from different angles. Such a person is more stress-resistant, more likely to be an optimist, satisfied with oneself, and has an adequate self-esteem.
4. The one who remains in the comfort zone does not strive for development. Being within the zone blocks a curiosity and interest.
DECIDING ON THE FIRST MOVE
Here are a few tips for those who have decided to get out of their comfort zones.
1. Get rid of bad thoughts. Fear of change is easy to overcome. For a start, begin with something small: change the color of your favorite outfits, move furniture, etc. The interest of what is next will replace the fear of change gradually.
2. Be curious! Do not be afraid to ask other people for help. Listen, talk, and learn. Replace ignorance with knowledge.
3. Achieve your goals and make your dreams come true. Make a list of 5 simple goals/wishes and take baby steps toward at least one of them.
4. And the most important thing is be an optimist. Remember, the rays of the sun devour darkness.
About the author:
Melisa Marzett writes for Resume Perk and is a vivid example of an optimistic person who strives for development, loves challenges, and getting out of her comfort zone. She enjoys having new experiences, talking with different people, and wrapping it all up with words for her future articles.