The Secret is That There is No Secret

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Dreams are seeds planted in the heart, rooted in the mind. They require time to grow, unfurl in their own good time. Sometimes they're uprooted and other times never grow at all.

And it's not because the dreamer is doing something wrong. That is just the nature of dreams.

And that's what I want to tell you today. 

That if your dreams aren't coming true, you're not seeing progress, but you're following "the template" of dream manifestation, it's okay. Take a step back for a second. Stop reading all the self-help books, secrets, and blog posts that give you a laundry list of techniques.

Simply:

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.

There's an abundance of blogs, books, and movies that tell us how to make our dreams come true.

Gratitude, vision boards, daydreaming, action steps, fake it till you make it, and so on and so forth. Even I've written a post or two.

But here's the thing: there's no formula for success. There's no do-this-and-you're- guaranteed approach to dream manifestation.

Sometimes dreams just happen without any effort on your part. Sometimes dreams take years and a lot of hard work. And sometimes they fade away.

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If your dreams come true easily, it doesn't mean you're a fraud. I can tell you that I didn't do much to make one of my big dreams come true. It just happened. There was no vigorous visualizing and weekly gratitude lists. There was no action-step calendar. 

There was just me, living day to day the best way I knew how.

At the same time, if it's been five years and your one big dream is still at infancy, it doesn't mean you suck at making stuff happen.

I've kept this blog for two years and I'm no (insert big name blogger here). I could, and have said, "But that blogger got big and started raking in the money after one year. I must be doing something wrong."

No. There's no template. No right path. Only my dream seed growing in the garden I've created.

Besides, our dreams of money and perfect houses and what our life should look like is no comparison to what our life should feel like. 

One can still be miserable after she acquires the fancy house, the sparkly clothes, the $100,000 mark.

So yes, please, relax, breathe. Remember why you do what you do. Think about how you want to feel. Let go of ideal situations and external happiness.

Take care of your soul space. Tend to your dream seeds, but don't get bogged down in the how-to-do-it gardening manual. Don't get overwhelmed with everyone else's dreams come true story. Live your own.

Just start where you are and do what you can with what you have.